{"id":377,"date":"2019-08-08T09:25:42","date_gmt":"2019-08-08T06:25:42","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/?p=377"},"modified":"2019-09-24T20:27:15","modified_gmt":"2019-09-24T17:27:15","slug":"seurustelun-taidot","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/seurustelun-taidot\/","title":{"rendered":"Seurustelun taidot"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"377\" class=\"elementor elementor-377\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-inner\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-section-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-a45eecf elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"a45eecf\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-60f70af\" data-id=\"60f70af\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ec7227d elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"ec7227d\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">SEURUSTELUN TAIDOT<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-deda5df elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"deda5df\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Seurustelu on erilaista el\u00e4m\u00e4n eri vaiheissa.\u00a0 Ennen seurustelua on tavallista ihastua toiseen, alkaa pit\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n ja tykk\u00e4\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n toisen olemuksesta ja haluaa pit\u00e4\u00e4 yhteytt\u00e4 t\u00e4h\u00e4n. Seurustelu voi alkaa esimerkiksi viestittelyst\u00e4, yhteisest\u00e4 harrastuksesta tai koulussa tutustumisesta.<\/p><p>Seurustelemiseen liittyy yhdess\u00e4 tekeminen ja oleminen. Seurustelussa on aina vahvasti mukana tunteet. Omia ja toisen tunteita tulee aina kuunnella ja kunnioittaa, eik\u00e4 koskaan loukata tai satuttaa toista tahallisesti. T\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 on opetella ottamaan my\u00f6s seurustelukumppani huomioon oman itsens\u00e4 lis\u00e4ksi. T\u00e4rkeint\u00e4 on kuitenkin olla oma itsens\u00e4 ja toimia omien arvojensa mukaan, eli sen mukaan mik\u00e4 on itselle t\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7d29932 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7d29932\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1b8a705\" data-id=\"1b8a705\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-f3a2c9b elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"f3a2c9b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Seurustelun aloittaminen<\/h4>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-3794819 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"3794819\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Ennen seurustelun aloittamista on hyv\u00e4 tutustua rauhassa toiseen. Voi vaatia valtavasti rohkeutta menn\u00e4 puhumaan ihastuksen kohteelle. Mieti valmiiksi muutama puheenaihe, joista voisi l\u00e4hte\u00e4 liikkeelle. Ole kohtelias ja kunnioittava toista kohtaan. Seurustelu pohjaa aina hyv\u00e4lle yst\u00e4vyydelle ja luottamukselle.<\/p><p>Seurustelun aloittamiseen ei ole olemassa yht\u00e4 tietty\u00e4 oikeaa ajankohtaa tai tapaa. Ihmiset kasvavat ja kehittyv\u00e4t omaan tahtiinsa. Kukin itse tiet\u00e4\u00e4 parhaiten, milloin on oikea aika ja edess\u00e4 juuri se oikea kumppani. Muista, ettei seurusteluun tarvitse ottaa muista mallia ja kokea sen takia painetta ryhty\u00e4 johonkin, mihin ei ole valmis! Se ei ole oikein my\u00f6sk\u00e4\u00e4n kumppaniasi kohtaan.<\/p><p>Seurustelemisesta sovitaan kumppanin kanssa. Ota rohkeasti asia puheeksi. Omat tuntemukset on t\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 my\u00f6s sanoittaa toiselle. On hyv\u00e4 mietti\u00e4 mit\u00e4 molemmat seurustelulta odottavat. Onko joitain s\u00e4\u00e4nt\u00f6j\u00e4 tai asioita, joita seurustelun aikana tulisi huomioida? T\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 on sanoittaa toiselle, mit\u00e4 haluaa ja toivoo. Mink\u00e4laisista asioista tykk\u00e4\u00e4 ja mist\u00e4 ei. Kukaan meist\u00e4 ei ole ajatustenlukija.\u00a0<\/p><p><strong>Tsekkaa Mummon seurusteluvinkit videolta! <br \/><\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b0770f8\" data-id=\"b0770f8\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-c988095 elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-aspect-ratio-169 elementor-widget elementor-widget-video\" data-id=\"c988095\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-settings=\"{&quot;youtube_url&quot;:&quot;https:\\\/\\\/www.youtube.com\\\/watch?v=Z3QRu3K7SjA&quot;,&quot;video_type&quot;:&quot;youtube&quot;,&quot;controls&quot;:&quot;yes&quot;,&quot;aspect_ratio&quot;:&quot;169&quot;}\" data-widget_type=\"video.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-wrapper elementor-fit-aspect-ratio elementor-open-inline\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-video\"><\/div>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-ec108af elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"ec108af\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1e9577e\" data-id=\"1e9577e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-23f7600 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"23f7600\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"300\" src=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/Pari-300x300.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/Pari-300x300.jpg 300w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/Pari-150x150.jpg 150w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/Pari-60x60.jpg 60w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/Pari.jpg 500w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b715f2e\" data-id=\"b715f2e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-94e418f elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"94e418f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Seurustelun taidot<\/h4>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dbbf30b elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"dbbf30b\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Seurustelemista opetellaan l\u00e4pi el\u00e4m\u00e4n. Seurustelemisen pohjana ovat sosiaaliset taidot ja toisen kunnioittaminen. Jokainen pari seurustelee heille sopivalla tavalla. <a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seurustelun-pelisaannot\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Seurustelun pelis\u00e4\u00e4nn\u00f6ist\u00e4 kannattaa sopia yhdess\u00e4.<\/a> Jokainen on riitt\u00e4v\u00e4n hyv\u00e4 juuri sellaisenaan kuin on, sit\u00e4 on t\u00e4rke\u00e4 kunnioittaa.<\/p><p>On tavallista, ett\u00e4 seurustelun alussa haluaisi viett\u00e4\u00e4 paljon aikaa kumppanin kanssa. Molempien kannattaa kuitenkin muistaa pit\u00e4\u00e4 huolta kaveri- ja yst\u00e4vyyssuhteista ja viett\u00e4\u00e4 my\u00f6s heid\u00e4n kanssaan aikaa. Omaa harrastustakin kannattaa jatkaa. Sopivan tasapainon l\u00f6yt\u00e4minen ajank\u00e4yt\u00f6lle voi joskus vied\u00e4 aikaa ja vaatia kompromisseja. Oma aika on t\u00e4rke\u00e4 asia, vaikka seurustellaankin! Vaikka sinusta olisikin ihanaa viett\u00e4\u00e4 kaikki aika el\u00e4m\u00e4st\u00e4 liimautuneena kumppanisi kylkeen, kumppanisi voi tarvita my\u00f6s omaa tilaa. Keskustelkaa ja sopikaa n\u00e4ist\u00e4 asioista yhdess\u00e4.<\/p><p>Seurustellessa on t\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 antaa positiivista palautetta ja toisen n\u00e4hd\u00e4 toisen vahvuudet. Seurustelusuhteessa, kuten muissakin ihmissuhteissa, luottamus on kaiken perusta.<\/p><p>Seurustelusuhteissa l\u00e4heisyyden m\u00e4\u00e4r\u00e4 vaihtelee. Kannattaa rauhassa tunnustella, mik\u00e4 m\u00e4\u00e4r\u00e4 ja tapa l\u00e4heisyytt\u00e4 sopii juuri teille. Toisen hyv\u00e4n\u00e4 pit\u00e4minen niin, ett\u00e4 se on molemmille hyv\u00e4 kokemus, on t\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4. Mit\u00e4\u00e4n kiirett\u00e4 ei ole.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-67557aa elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"67557aa\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-5121b5d\" data-id=\"5121b5d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-295e480 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"295e480\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Mit\u00e4 rauhallisemmin toiseen tutustuu, sit\u00e4 vahvemman pohjan se suhteelle luo. Mik\u00e4li toisen l\u00e4heisyys tai kosketus ei tunnu hyv\u00e4lt\u00e4, kannattaa siit\u00e4 kertoa ja tarvittaessa l\u00e4hte\u00e4 tilanteesta pois. Mit\u00e4\u00e4n mik\u00e4 itsest\u00e4 ei tunnu hyv\u00e4lt\u00e4, ei tarvitse tehd\u00e4. Esimerkiksi v\u00e4kivalta ei ole miss\u00e4\u00e4n muodossa seurustelussa ja parisuhteessa sallittua. <a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/vaaran-merkkeja-seurustelusuhteessa\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Miten tunnistaa vaaran merkit seurustelussa ja mit\u00e4 v\u00e4kivalta seurustelussa voi olla?<\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-4a492bd elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"4a492bd\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-f40eef2\" data-id=\"f40eef2\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b49d2a9 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"b49d2a9\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">Seurustelun aikana voi tulla erimielisyyksi\u00e4 ja riitojakin<\/h4>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-7e9141b elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"7e9141b\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-840fd8c\" data-id=\"840fd8c\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2f506d6 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"2f506d6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Seurusteluun liittyy paljon erilaisia tunteita niin positiivisia rakkauden ja v\u00e4litt\u00e4misen tunteita kun negatiivisiakin tunteita. Erimielisyyksi\u00e4 on hyv\u00e4 oppia ratkomaan puhumalla. Samoin riitelemisen taitoja on hyv\u00e4 opetella. T\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 on aidosti kuunnella toisen mielipiteit\u00e4 ja h\u00e4nt\u00e4 askarruttavia asioita. Olkaa puhumatta toistenne p\u00e4\u00e4lle. My\u00f6sk\u00e4\u00e4n kuoreen vet\u00e4ytyminen ei rakenna suhdetta eteenp\u00e4in.<\/p><p>Riitelemisen taidot on usein omilta vanhemmiltaan opittuja. Puhelkaa miten lapsuuden kodeissanne on riidelty ja asioista sovittu. Mit\u00e4 asioita haluatte siirt\u00e4\u00e4 lapsuuden kodeista omaan parisuhteenne? Jos jokin asia olisi hyv\u00e4 j\u00e4tt\u00e4\u00e4 siirt\u00e4m\u00e4tt\u00e4, kannattaa aktiivisesti opetella olla k\u00e4ytt\u00e4m\u00e4tt\u00e4 sit\u00e4.\u00a0<\/p><p>Tunteet voivat kuohahtaa voimakkaastikin. T\u00e4rke\u00e4\u00e4 on opetella sanoittamaan ja k\u00e4sittelem\u00e4\u00e4n omia vahvoja tunteita ja p\u00e4\u00e4st\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n niist\u00e4 my\u00f6s tarvittaessa irti.\u00a0 On hyv\u00e4 pysy\u00e4 t\u00e4ss\u00e4 hetkess\u00e4, eik\u00e4 l\u00e4hte\u00e4 kaivelemaan menneit\u00e4 tapahtumia tai syytell\u00e4 \u201caina sin\u00e4..\u201d, vaan keskitty\u00e4 juuri sill\u00e4 hetkell\u00e4 k\u00e4sill\u00e4 olevaan asiaan ja sen ratkaisemiseen.<\/p><p><strong>Anteeksi pyyt\u00e4misen ja antamisen taito on arvokas my\u00f6s seurustelusuhteessa. Kuuntele Nuts &#8216;n Eggs podcast aiheesta.<br \/><\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2b4ca26\" data-id=\"2b4ca26\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-b3ddca4 elementor-widget elementor-widget-audio\" data-id=\"b3ddca4\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"audio.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-soundcloud-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"940\" height=\"200\" frameborder=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?visual=false&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Ftracks%2F678379794&#038;show_artwork=true&#038;maxheight=1000&#038;maxwidth=940&#038;auto_play=false&#038;buying=true&#038;liking=true&#038;download=true&#038;sharing=true&#038;show_comments=true&#038;show_playcount=true&#038;show_user=true&#038;color\"><\/iframe>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-a3463f3 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"a3463f3\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"300\" height=\"199\" src=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/priscilla-du-preez-_TGDr3nPLSY-unsplash-300x199.jpg\" class=\"attachment-medium size-medium\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/priscilla-du-preez-_TGDr3nPLSY-unsplash-300x199.jpg 300w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/priscilla-du-preez-_TGDr3nPLSY-unsplash-1024x680.jpg 1024w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-8a57263 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"8a57263\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-66 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-a65739d\" data-id=\"a65739d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-17a3e80 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"17a3e80\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-image\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"750\" height=\"500\" src=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/seurustelu-1.jpg\" class=\"attachment-large size-large\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/seurustelu-1.jpg 750w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/seurustelu-1-300x200.jpg 300w, https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-content\/blogs.dir\/398\/files\/2019\/08\/seurustelu-1-272x182.jpg 272w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 750px) 100vw, 750px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-33 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2ddb520\" data-id=\"2ddb520\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-02c6763 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"02c6763\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h4 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">S\u00e4rkynyt syd\u00e4n<\/h4>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-910c063 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"910c063\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-text-editor elementor-clearfix\">\n\t\t\t\t<p>Seurustelusuhteen p\u00e4\u00e4ttyminen on aina vaikea asia. Joskus suhteen lopettamiseen on p\u00e4\u00e4dytty yhteisen p\u00e4\u00e4t\u00f6ksen kautta. Joskus toisen halu lopettaa suhde voi tulla t\u00e4ysin yll\u00e4tyksen\u00e4. Taustalla voi olla monenlaisia asioita vaikuttamassa. Luottamuksen rikkominen tekee s\u00e4r\u00f6\u00e4 suhteeseen. Aina suhde ei p\u00e4\u00e4ty eroon, jos asioista p\u00e4\u00e4st\u00e4\u00e4n sopuun ja luottamuksen rakentamiseen uudelleen ollaan motivoituneita.\u00a0<\/p><p>Se, ett\u00e4 rakas hylk\u00e4\u00e4, voi olla maailman hankalin asia hyv\u00e4ksy\u00e4. Itsens\u00e4 saattaa tuntea arvottomaksi ja tuskan haava kirvell\u00e4 monta p\u00e4iv\u00e4\u00e4. Oma suru on hyv\u00e4 p\u00e4\u00e4st\u00e4\u00e4 ulos, sen sijaan ett\u00e4 pit\u00e4isi kaiken sis\u00e4ll\u00e4\u00e4n kuin mit\u00e4\u00e4n ei olisi tapahtunut. Padottu suru etsii keinon p\u00e4\u00e4st\u00e4 pintaan my\u00f6hemmin el\u00e4m\u00e4ss\u00e4. Ei kannata hautoa asioita sis\u00e4ll\u00e4\u00e4\u00e4n. \u00c4l\u00e4 j\u00e4\u00e4 yksin. Jaettu suru helpottaa usein oloa.\u00a0<\/p><p>Se, miten eroon p\u00e4\u00e4dyt\u00e4\u00e4n ja miten siit\u00e4 puhutaan, on merkityksellist\u00e4. On ep\u00e4reilua toista kohtaan ilmoittaa erosta viestill\u00e4, soittamalla tai savumerkeill\u00e4. Erosta kannattaa puhua kasvotusten paikassa, jossa voi puhua rauhassa.<\/p><p>Vaikka seurustelu p\u00e4\u00e4ttyisikin, tulee muistaa puhua toisesta kunnioittavasti ja s\u00e4ilytt\u00e4\u00e4 suhteeseen liittyv\u00e4t luottamukselliset asiat omana tietona. Kumppania ei kannata l\u00e4hte\u00e4 haukkumaan tai levitt\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n h\u00e4nest\u00e4 juoruja tai kuvia.<\/p><p><strong>Nuts&#8217; n Eggs podcastissa puhutaan t\u00e4st\u00e4 aiheesta lis\u00e4\u00e4.<\/strong><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-54359f5 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"54359f5\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-dcc9782\" data-id=\"dcc9782\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d6a8f10 elementor-widget elementor-widget-audio\" data-id=\"d6a8f10\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"audio.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-soundcloud-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t<iframe loading=\"lazy\" width=\"940\" height=\"200\" frameborder=\"no\" src=\"https:\/\/w.soundcloud.com\/player\/?visual=false&#038;url=https%3A%2F%2Fapi.soundcloud.com%2Ftracks%2F678378540&#038;show_artwork=true&#038;maxheight=1000&#038;maxwidth=940&#038;auto_play=false&#038;buying=true&#038;liking=true&#038;download=true&#038;sharing=true&#038;show_comments=true&#038;show_playcount=true&#038;show_user=true&#038;color\"><\/iframe>\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-9c15fd9 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"9c15fd9\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-52f716d\" data-id=\"52f716d\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-8b6c33c elementor-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"8b6c33c\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t<a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seurustelun-pelisaannot\/\" class=\"elementor-button-link elementor-button elementor-size-sm\" role=\"button\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Seurustelun pelis\u00e4\u00e4nn\u00f6ist\u00e4 kannattaa sopia yhdess\u00e4! Lue lis\u00e4\u00e4...<\/span>\n\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-c09d775 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"c09d775\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-95f33f4\" data-id=\"95f33f4\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-7a858a6 elementor-align-center elementor-widget elementor-widget-button\" data-id=\"7a858a6\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"button.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-button-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t<a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/vaaran-merkkeja-seurustelusuhteessa\/\" class=\"elementor-button-link elementor-button elementor-size-sm\" role=\"button\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-content-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-button-text\">Miten tunnistaa vaaran merkit seurustelussa ja mit\u00e4 v\u00e4kivalta seurustelussa voi olla? Lue lis\u00e4\u00e4...<\/span>\n\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-51d892a elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"51d892a\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-b6f08bd\" data-id=\"b6f08bd\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-inner-section elementor-element elementor-element-c2fefd1 elementor-section-boxed elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"c2fefd1\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-row\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-240908e\" data-id=\"240908e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-cf698b0 elementor-position-right elementor-view-default elementor-mobile-position-top elementor-vertical-align-top elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-box\" data-id=\"cf698b0\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-icon elementor-animation-\" href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seurustelu-ja-seksihommat\/\">\n\t\t\t\t<i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"far fa-arrow-alt-circle-left\"><\/i>\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-content\">\n\t\t\t\t<h6 class=\"elementor-icon-box-title\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seurustelu-ja-seksihommat\/\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\tSeurustelu ja seksihommat\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/h6>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-inner-column elementor-element elementor-element-374c9df\" data-id=\"374c9df\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-2ea09f8 elementor-position-left elementor-view-default elementor-mobile-position-top elementor-vertical-align-top elementor-widget elementor-widget-icon-box\" data-id=\"2ea09f8\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"icon-box.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-wrapper\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-icon\">\n\t\t\t\t<a class=\"elementor-icon elementor-animation-\" href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seksihommat\/\">\n\t\t\t\t<i aria-hidden=\"true\" class=\"far fa-arrow-alt-circle-right\"><\/i>\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-icon-box-content\">\n\t\t\t\t<h6 class=\"elementor-icon-box-title\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"http:\/\/nutsneggs.tamk.fi\/seksihommat\/\" >\n\t\t\t\t\t\tItsetyydytys\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t<\/h6>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>SEURUSTELUN TAIDOT Seurustelu on erilaista el\u00e4m\u00e4n eri vaiheissa. Ennen seurustelua on tavallista ihastua toiseen, alkaa pit\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n ja tykk\u00e4\u00e4m\u00e4\u00e4n toisen olemuksesta ja haluaa pit\u00e4\u00e4 yhteytt\u00e4 t\u00e4h\u00e4n. Seurustelu voi alkaa esimerkiksi viestittelyst\u00e4, yhteisest\u00e4 harrastuksesta tai koulussa tutustumisesta. Seurustelemiseen liittyy yhdess\u00e4 tekeminen ja &hellip; <a href=\"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/seurustelun-taidot\/\">Read More<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3615,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[26],"tags":[21,60,59],"class_list":["post-377","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-seurustelu-ja-seksihommat","tag-seurustelu","tag-seurustelutaidot","tag-taidot"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/377","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/3615"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=377"}],"version-history":[{"count":73,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/377\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3161,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/377\/revisions\/3161"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=377"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=377"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/webpages.tuni.fi\/nutsneggs\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=377"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}